FRIENDLY FIRE | Fenced Out by Offense

Fenced Out by Offense

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
— Romans 12:18

I. Fenced out

A. Matt 5:21 begins a series of 6 theological upgrades

Matt 5:21-26 - “You have heard that our ancestors were told, ‘You must not murder. If you commit murder, you are subject to judgment.’ 22 But I say, if you are even angry with someone, you are subject to judgment! If you call someone an idiot, you are in danger of being brought before the court. And if you curse someone, you are in danger of the fires of hell. 23 “So if you are presenting a sacrifice at the altar in the Temple and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you, 24 leave your sacrifice there at the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God. 25 “When you are on the way to court with your adversary, settle your differences quickly. Otherwise, your accuser may hand you over to the judge, who will hand you over to an officer, and you will be thrown into prison. 26 And if that happens, you surely won’t be free again until you have paid the last penny.

B. In these 6 theological upgrades is a spiritual truth that Jesus is hammering home.

“Long before something happens in your life it happened in your heart”

  • What happens in your heart becomes your world.

II. Reality of the progression of offense.

A. Everybody is offended.

  • Christians are the most offendable.
  • It’s funny we give our lives to Jesus who dropped every offense we ever committed to Him. It’s a little ironic.

B. Satan wants to destroy Christ church

  • The best way is division. Jesus said a house divided against itself cannot stand.
  • His goal is destruction his strategy is division and his tactic it little offenses

C. The closer the relationship the greater the opportunity.

  • Goes both ways. Greater opportunity for intimacy and the greater the opportunity for offense.

1st question… How did we get Here?

  • Look at this fence. It is made up of a lot of little offenses.

Answer: One offense at a time.

2nd question... Where are we going?

…you surely won’t be free again until you have paid the last penny.

  • The is the progression of offense. This is how we got here. One offense at a time.
  • Now we have gotten to the point where the judge is involved. Who’s the judge?
John 5:22 - …the Father judges no one. Instead, he has given the Son absolute authority to judge,
  • Here comes the judge who will make you pay every last penny for your involvement!

III. Deal with offense and keep devil on defense.

A. Its takes one to forgive but takes two to reconcile.  This is big.

  • You need to reconcile and drop it.

B. Big key in V25 Settle it quickly

  • The question isn’t whether you will be offended, its what are your going to do with it when it happens.
  • You make your own prison. You must learn to drop it.
  • It’s not about how quickly you get offended but by how quickly you can drop it.
 Romans 12:18 - If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.
  • Your relationships depend on you dropping it…
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
— Lewis B. Smedes


Am I Truly my friend's friend?  Will I drop it for them, for me, for us… Will I continue to build a fence!