BY NATURE, WE PURSUE WHAT WE DON’T HAVE.
VOW #1: I PROMISE GOD WILL BE MY FIRST PRIORITY AND MY SPOUSE WILL BE MY SECOND.
VOW #2: I PROMISE TO ALWAYS PURSUE MY TWO.
Genesis 2:24 - This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.
Joined: dabaq (daw-bak'); cling or adhere; to catch by pursuit; to pursue hard with affection and devotion.
DABAQ IS TRANSLATED
- I follow close behind you … Psalm 63:8 TLB
- … They are joined fast to one another; they cling together and cannot be parted. Job 41:17
- They … pursued hard after them … Judges 20:45 KJV
enesis 29:14-30 - After Jacob had stayed with Laban for about a month, 15 Laban said to him, “You shouldn’t work for me without pay just because we are relatives. Tell me how much your wages should be.” 16 Now Laban had two daughters. The older daughter was named Leah, and the younger one was Rachel. 17 There was no sparkle in Leah’s eyes, but Rachel had a beautiful figure and a lovely face. 18 Since Jacob was in love with Rachel, he told her father, “I’ll work for you for seven years if you’ll give me Rachel, your younger daughter, as my wife.” 19 “Agreed!” Laban replied. “I’d rather give her to you than to anyone else. Stay and work with me.” 20 So Jacob worked seven years to pay for Rachel. But his love for her was so strong that it seemed to him but a few days. 21 Finally, the time came for him to marry her. “I have fulfilled my agreement,” Jacob said to Laban. “Now give me my wife so I can sleep with her.” 22 So Laban invited everyone in the neighborhood and prepared a wedding feast. 23 But that night, when it was dark, Laban took Leah to Jacob, and he slept with her. 24 (Laban had given Leah a servant, Zilpah, to be her maid.) 25 But when Jacob woke up in the morning—it was Leah! “What have you done to me?” Jacob raged at Laban. “I worked seven years for Rachel! Why have you tricked me?” 26 “It’s not our custom here to marry off a younger daughter ahead of the firstborn,” Laban replied. 27 “But wait until the bridal week is over; then we’ll give you Rachel, too—provided you promise to work another seven years for me.” 28 So Jacob agreed to work seven more years. A week after Jacob had married Leah, Laban gave him Rachel, too. 29 (Laban gave Rachel a servant, Bilhah, to be her maid.) 30 So Jacob slept with Rachel, too, and he loved her much more than Leah. He then stayed and worked for Laban the additional seven years.
CLOSING THE GAP BETWEEN INTENTIONS AND ACTIONS
1. WHEN YOU THINK SOMETHING GOOD, SAY IT.
Hebrews 3:13 - But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.
MEN: Pursue her with words of affection.
» She wants to know: Do you love me today?
LADIES: Pursue him with words of affirmation.
» He wants to know: Do you believe in me today?
Ephesians 5:31-33 - As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” 32 This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. 33 So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
2. WHEN YOU THINK SOMETHING SPECIAL, DO IT.
James 4:17 - Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it.
3. WHEN YOU WANT SOMETHING DIFFERENT, BE IT.
To get what you’ve never had, you must do what you’ve never done.
To get what you once had, you must do what you once did.
Revelation 2:5 - Look how far you have fallen! Turn back to me and do the works you did at first.
- What makes you feel pursued? How does this impact the way you pursue others?
- Is there ever a gap between your intentions and actions? How might you overcome this?
- Read James 4:17. What’s something you know you ought to do to pursue a godly marriage? Is anything holding you back?
- “If you want something different, be it.” How could you put this into action right away?
- If you’re married, ask your spouse today what makes them feel loved, then do it.