I. Can we change our emotions with Logic and truth?
1 Samuel 19:1-6 - Saul now urged his servants and his son Jonathan to assassinate David. But Jonathan, because of his strong affection for David, 2 told him what his father was planning. “Tomorrow morning,” he warned him, “you must find a hiding place out in the fields. 3 I’ll ask my father to go out there with me, and I’ll talk to him about you. Then I’ll tell you everything I can find out.” 4 The next morning Jonathan spoke with his father about David, saying many good things about him. “The king must not sin against his servant David,” Jonathan said. “He’s never done anything to harm you. He has always helped you in any way he could. 5 Have you forgotten about the time he risked his life to kill the Philistine giant and how the Lord brought a great victory to all Israel as a result? You were certainly happy about it then. Why should you murder an innocent man like David? There is no reason for it at all!” 6 So Saul listened to Jonathan and vowed, “As surely as the Lord lives, David will not be killed.
A. Jonathan’s appeal for civility
- You must not sin against David
- Look at the logic
>>> Jonathan’s appeal reaches Saul’s head but not his heart.
B. Only God can heal the disease of uncontrolled emotions
1 Samuel 19:7-10 - Afterward Jonathan called David and told him what had happened. Then he brought David to Saul, and David served in the court as before. 8 War broke out again after that, and David led his troops against the Philistines. He attacked them with such fury that they all ran away. 9 But one day when Saul was sitting at home, with spear in hand, the tormenting spirit from the Lord suddenly came upon him again. As David played his harp, 10 Saul hurled his spear at David. But David dodged out of the way, and leaving the spear stuck in the wall, he fled and escaped into the night.
- Uncontrolled anger and rage no matter what the cause is in the purview of God.
- Words can deal with the symptoms but we need God to heal us.
Hebrews 4:15 - This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the same testing’s we do, yet he did not sin. 16 So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most.
- We need His grace for freedom. Without it we are just managers. Walking our elephants with a small leash.
>>> Uncontrolled emotions cause what we fear the most to happen. Jealousy leads others to betray us. Anger leads others out of our control. It affects not just the one specific relationship we struggle with but all of our relationships
II. Can we isolate our negative emotions?
1 Samuel 19:11-17 - Then Saul sent troops to watch David’s house. They were told to kill David when he came out the next morning. But Michal, David’s wife, warned him, “If you don’t escape tonight, you will be dead by morning.” 12 So she helped him climb out through a window, and he fled and escaped. 13 Then she took an idol and put it in his bed, covered it with blankets, and put a cushion of goat’s hair at its head. 14 When the troops came to arrest David, she told them he was sick and couldn’t get out of bed. 15 But Saul sent the troops back to get David. He ordered, “Bring him to me in his bed so I can kill him!” 16 But when they came to carry David out, they discovered that it was only an idol in the bed with a cushion of goat’s hair at its head. 17 “Why have you betrayed me like this and let my enemy escape?” Saul demanded of Michal. “I had to,” Michal replied. “He threatened to kill me if I didn’t help him.”
A. Michal loved David
Her father is now forcing her to choose between them.
B. Johnathon Loved David
Saul forces Johnathon to choose between them.
>>> This bitter Jealousy has turned his family against him but not only those relationships
III. Does simple jealousy and resentment affect our relationship with God?
1 Samuel 19:18-24 - So David escaped and went to Ramah to see Samuel, and he told him all that Saul had done to him. Then Samuel took David with him to live at Naioth. 19 When the report reached Saul that David was at Naioth in Ramah, 20 he sent troops to capture him. But when they arrived and saw Samuel leading a group of prophets who were prophesying, the Spirit of God came upon Saul’s men, and they also began to prophesy. 21 When Saul heard what had happened, he sent other troops, but they, too, prophesied! The same thing happened a third time. 22 Finally, Saul himself went to Ramah and arrived at the great well in Secu. “Where are Samuel and David?” he demanded. “They are at Naioth in Ramah,” someone told him. 23 But on the way to Naioth in Ramah the Spirit of God came even upon Saul, and he, too, began to prophesy all the way to Naioth! 24 He tore off his clothes and lay naked on the ground all day and all night, prophesying in the presence of Samuel. The people who were watching exclaimed, “What? Is even Saul a prophet?”
A. God takes away the choice
Men sent to kill David are overcome by God.
B. Saul’s turns against God
He sets himself against God to accomplish his murder.
C. God takes control.
- Saul could not see that God was speaking to him about being totally taken over by jealousy.
- He sent his men and God took control. He came himself and God took control. God took over everything in his life.
>>> Saul should have stayed there in Ramah. It is better to under control of the Holy Spirit than of jealous hatred.
I. Can we change our emotions with logic and truth? We can only treat symptoms we need him for healing.
II. Can we Isolate our negative emotions? No.
Hebrews 12:14-15 - Work at living in peace with everyone, and work at living a holy life, for those who are not holy will not see the Lord. 15 Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many.
- Bitterness is the result of clinging to negatives experiences. It serves you no good and closes the door to your future.
- It is up to all of us to keep each other accountable.
III. Does simple jealousy affect our relationship with God? Yes. If you are controlled by emotions, then God is not in control.
2 Corinthians 10:3-5 - We are human, but we don’t wage war as humans do. 4 We use God’s mighty weapons, not worldly weapons, to knock down the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments. 5 We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ.
How do I do that? First, you must believe that God can and wants to help you.
Secondly, you need to invite him into it. All the way in. Give him your reasons. State your case. Then let him tear down what needs to be torn down. Let him give you the monster killing weapons.
Thirdly, some of us have become great managers. Because you can manage it doesn’t mean it doesn’t come between you and those you love and between you and God.