Friendly Fire

FRIENDLY FIRE | Naked & Afraid

FRIENDLY FIRE | Naked & Afraid
Genesis 3:8-11 - When the cool evening breezes were blowing, the man and his wife heard the Lord God walking about in the garden. So they hid from the Lord God among the trees. 9 Then the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?” 10 He replied, “I heard you walking in the garden, so I hid. I was afraid because I was naked.” 11 “Who told you that you were naked?” the Lord God asked.
Genesis 2:25 - Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame.

The Veneer of Vulnerability

The reality is we are afraid of true intimacy because we’re afraid they’re going to hurt me.
Fear is the enemy of vulnerability
Fear leads to lack of trust
…Lack of trust leads to a lack of exposure
……Lack of exposure means we’re not going to be known.
Spend so much of our relationship time hiding the true us
We put on an act, a costume, which is not fulfilling to either side.

FRIENDLY FIRE | You Get What You Give

FRIENDLY FIRE | You Get What You Give

You Get What You Give

Luke 6:35-38

I. Number one rule of relationships. The rule of Reciprocation.

A. Whether you are a rule follower, or not, relationships have rules.

  • If I text you 3 full sentences you cannot text me back the letter k or a thumbs up.
  • You can’t date your best friend’s ex.

B. Rule of reciprocation:

  • The give and take rule. I give so you owe me / I cooked, you do the dishes.
  • I came to your house now you have to come to mine this week.

C. There are a few problems with this rule.

FRIENDLY FIRE | Fenced Out by Offense

FRIENDLY FIRE | Fenced Out by Offense

Fenced Out by Offense

Romans 12:18 - If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.

I. Fenced out

A. Matt 5:21 begins a series of 6 theological upgrades

Matt 5:21-26 - “You have heard that our ancestors were told, ‘You must not murder. If you commit murder, you are subject to judgment.’ 22 But I say, if you are even angry with someone, you are subject to judgment! If you call someone an idiot, you are in danger of being brought before the court. And if you curse someone, you are in danger of the fires of hell. 23 “So if you are presenting a sacrifice at the altar in the Temple and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you, 24 leave your sacrifice there at the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God. 25 “When you are on the way to court with your adversary, settle your differences quickly. Otherwise, your accuser may hand you over to the judge, who will hand you over to an officer, and you will be thrown into prison. 26 And if that happens, you surely won’t be free again until you have paid the last penny.

B. In these 6 theological upgrades is a spiritual truth that Jesus is hammering home.

“Long before something happens in your life it happened in your heart”

  • What happens in your heart becomes your world.

II. Reality of the progression of offense.

A. Everybody is offended.

  • Christians are the most offendable.
  • It’s funny we give our lives to Jesus who dropped every offense we ever committed to Him. It’s a little ironic.

FRIENDLY FIRE | Fix Your Focus

FRIENDLY FIRE | Fix Your Focus

Fix Your Focus

If we don’t have our relationship with God right, and our relationship with ourself right, then we will never get our relationship with others right.

So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today. Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged. And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye. Don’t waste what is holy on people who are unholy. Don’t throw your pearls to pigs! They will trample the pearls, then turn and attack you. Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. -Matthew 6:31-7:7

Four Areas of Focus

1. Finding or Becoming

The only way you’ll have the right people in your life is if you’ll be the right person in your heart.